4 hours later I was recovering from what might have been a cancelled track day. First wheel changed, onto the second and....? why is the security nut key just going round and round and the bolt not undoing? Answer: the fancy shape security drive is actually an insert into the 17mm hex body. It is a press fit, relying on an external knurl to stop it rotating, which in this case was now a very smooth bit of knurling!
After phaffing around trying to press fit it back with a bit of additional knurling - no chance, rotated straight away - I bit the bullet and drilled 2 holes in the body and welded the insert in place. This was not easy - the last place the mig wire wanted to go was down that little hole!
Eventually got a couple of blobs on either side, then it was out with the dremel type tool and a tungsten bit to clear the weld from the fancy shape. Sounds easy but the clock was ticking and all this took a bit of time, not to mention raising my heart rate.
Yes, I have read the threads about whacking on 18,19mm 3/4" sockets, but (a) I try not to do whacking ( I had 3 of these to do © they were all torqued to 85 lb-ft and friction has its limits!
After a bit of grind/fit/grind we eventually got there, panic over, but needless to say, these security nuts will not be going back on.