That's interesting, where did you get the lubed figure? I know theoretically you can lubricate threads if you know the correct reduced torque to use to compensate, but that seemed to me to open the can of worms that is the difference in the lubrication qualities of different products? Something you really would need to get right on critical components.
Didn't Scuffers say somewhere that he does it though he knows you're not supposed to?
kind of.
with steel uprights, I use 12.9's and work to a minimum of 55Lbft (the spec for 12.9 is some 62lbft)
the important bit is the threads/shims/surfaces need to be spotlessly clean and dry, DO NOT lube the threads, use copaslip, or any other product.
Once you have them torqued up, by all means then coat in copaslip or the like.
problem with HT bolts is that if you fail to torque them enough, you won't have enough 'stretch' in the bolt to maintain the clamp load, and all the different grades of HT bolt have different loads.
ie. if you do them up to the 8,8 spec torque (~33lbft), a 12.9 will simply work loose.
the threads in the upright are plenty strong enough assuming they are clean and not already chewed up.