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[Kip'n'Srin]

Painful for the dumper! Did she cry? Only cos she realised too late that she wanted you. Chill out and go for a drive!

[Smiler]

suspect he will.. my ..ahem.. experienced head says.. STAY AWAY.. leave it be mate.. many emotions there still... "you got dumped" her "oh what if's.." to much.. nah... ..just shag her this weekend and call it even

[mart356]

Be very careful. Ant you sound emotionally lost and grasping at old branches ain't going to help. Hopefully you cleared up how both of you felt after you last split but that can really only lead to a re-analysis of the event, leading to perhaps the concept that you are and have always been those starcrossed lovers.... unfinished business and all that. Did something similar, even though 5 years had passed, Sara and I met again, I got butterflies seeing her and all that stuff - and started going out - even though we had changed as people, within weeks we were still playing the same old sh*t games that we did when we first went out. We regressed to what our relationship was, not to what it could have been. yet another painful spiteful split. My parting line was "The next time I want to impale my heart on a spike, I'll pick a spike with better legs and less child-like breasts" (I knew where to mentally kick her). Sounds like you will meet up with her again, you will shag her and you will go out with her for a while. If only to exorcise that ghost. It's summer, hopefully this will be a warm one and just hope you can find 120 miles of decent roads for when you go-a-calling. mart

[CupidKnewRap]

i knew the person i'd meet would pretty much be a stranger who just bore a resemblance to the girl i was engaged to, but i guess i was just intrigued.

Now that is somthing I can understand but in my case it was best left in my imagination, Kates changed as much as I have since then.

never thought that the silence i'd used to protect myself would lead to her questioning whether i'd ever loved her etc.

ding

i'll just see how things go, at the mo i'm just glad we're friends again. i know, that sounds 

That's the way I'd like things to turn out too but as a friendship its going to be pretty f*cking awkward.
seriously thinking about objecting to my next job now but at the same time....

If she's anything like me (fat chance) then the relationship she's in is going to be hard to give up on as much as she'd want to, and she'll stay where she is.
But why walk in a marked minefield just because you don't know if they work?

[jules_s]

I agree with Mart ^^^^^^ sounds like the curse of friendsreunited

[mart356]

If she's anything like me (fat chance) then the relationship she's in is going to be hard to give up on as much as she'd want to, and she'll stay where she is.

Cupid, you are a bloke right?

Imagine what's going through her head. Sounds like Ant wasn't giving her enough attention (she sounds high maintainence m8), she took this as he didn't care, tried to force his hand, they split. His silence allowed her to convince herself that she didn't love him but he was deeply wounded. But now the cat is out of the bag and it was just because they failed to communicate at the time that he was so deeply hurt.

What do you think is going through her head now that she knows she 'was the one' that hurt him the most. He probably has had an equally painful impact on her emotional development.

I'm afraid the touch paper has been lit, she will be doing a lot of 'What ifs' in her head now, the current bloke stands no chance. And of course, as Ant has a VX, she's easily going to dump her current boring boyfriend and drop her knickers for old times sake.

See, I can do CAD consultancy and work at the Samaritans

[CupidKnewRap]

Cupid, you are a bloke right?

Obviously wired up a little different to you lot though

[mart356]

Obviously wired up a little different to you lot though

With this Kate story, does that make you a Lesbian?

[Foxy]

she still looks stunning (like she did at twenty)

I think a pic might help us offer better informed advice.






/reaches for kleenex in anticipation.

[CupidKnewRap]

oh! Hadn't realised I'd actually typed Kate. [/mental note] don't change job to proof reader [mental note] Names Andrew take what you will from that I've kind of given up on that perfect love crap - it never works out right and hurts like hell. And the novelty sleeping with everything that moves wore off after awhile. god your right - I sound like a .

[easy]

Ask her and see if a ghost is laid to rest or not
Don't ask and always wonder

Where's the 'easy shag and walk away' option?

[mart356]

Sorry, I thought we had sorted you out, you will do what you will do Ant. i wonder if she will ring you first? If she cheated on you, I say no way. High maintainence, insecure and uncomunicative = disaster in my books. Sara was exactly that, she thought I'd lost interested so started seeing someone else - warped woman-logic in my books. Those three personal traits don't just fcuk off over time, then you can add too that a layer of guilt to really confuse things, meanwhile you like the idea of a safe harbour. Now where was I? Ah yes.. two 16 year old lesbian sisters....

[mart356]

Ah, like your call. I would have done the same back then prob too, although probably with greater wit I wouldn't lay it on too thick m8. It won't take a rocket scientist to work out you have some emotional issues to work through. She didn't study rocket science did she? You can catch up over a period of time, not in a diatribe. If it could wait 5 years it can wait a few weeks. I'd pescribe having some fun, rather than a straight wallow. While writing everything down is cathartic, leave some for face to face. At least you can see from her reactions how she's taking it all. An email is indirect. good luck mart

Edited by mart356, 25 May 2005 - 02:16 PM.

[CupidKnewRap]

I wouldn't lay it on too thick m8. You can catch up over a period of time, not in a diatribe. If it could wait 5 years it can wait a few weeks.

I'd agree with that much.